SHOW OF REALITY

Dear friends,

It was an ewe of  Bakrid. I and Risha were on our way to city. He wanted me to buy a jeans for him. When we reached near the bridge, we saw Nasreen, carrying a bag in her hand, coming from the opposite side. I know her, belongs to a low middle class family, the fourth girl of five sisters, her father was no more. She was fair in complexion, beautiful, but there were dark layers below her eyes. The time has started to taken back the colourfulness  of her youth. Among the five sisters only the elder one was married. Whenever I asked her about the marriage, she would say we don’t have gold and money to give as dowry, so how is it possible.

 It is a harsh reality of the girls of the poor families to face. The dowry has become an inevitable obligation of the bride’s parents of  the Indian sub continent.  When the boy’s family demands dowry in the form of gold and money, what will the parents of the middle class families do. Last week, when a boy came to see my friend Niyas’s sister they asked openly Rs.2 lakhs and 40 sovereigns of gold. In such situation the parents of the girls may forced to sell even their houses to conduct the marriage of their daughters. This is the reality show which has been continuing its episodes for a long time in our society.

     Everybody may speak about religions, faiths, morals etc., but never copy the good aspects from the holy books and make it practical in their lives.   According to Islam religion, The mahr (dowry) is something that is paid by the man to his wife. It is paid to the wife and to her only as an honour and a respect given to her and to show that he has a serious desire to marry her and is not simply entering into the marriage contract without any sense of responsibility and obligation or effort on his part.  It is a wonderful thought. Since marriage is a sacred relationship between two souls, the bride herself will be the most valuable dowry for the groom. We should think that way. So my dear friends on this good day we should promise, never ask dowry, never seek dowry, never go behind dowry. What do you think about this?